Military career or family life?

Can soldiers have both?

I have so much respect for soldiers. What they do is entirely selfless, and I cannot put into words how much appreciation I have for them. Not to sound selfish, but what happens to the wives and families back home? The wives are sacrificing their wants and needs, and waiting around for their husbands to return home. Let's not forget the worrying--whether your soldier is working in an office overseas, or on the front lines, you will worry. There is no doubt about that.

On the flip side: what happens to the dynamic between a couple when the soldier wants to keep serving, but the wife wants to start a family and settle down? It's a lose-lose situation, isn't it? (Or is that me being super negative?) If the husband continues his military career, the wife is left alone and has to put her wants/needs to the side. If the husband does not continue with his military career and settles in to family life at home, will he end up resenting his wife and wondering what life would have been like if he re-enlisted?

I'm curious to see how other military wives feel about this topic...

Loss for words.

For once, I am actually at a loss for words. Actually, one word comes to mind: disappointment. I feel like I can't trust anyone anymore. The more I put down my walls and go out of my way for people, the more I get taken advantage of and look like a goddamn fool. What do I do? Sigh.