Apparently, I'm a bad daughter.

So... according to the whole world, I'm a horrible daughter for not visiting my mom at the hospital after her surgery.

First of all, I did not have any information about her surgery. All I knew was that she was going on Thursday, and that's it. I tried contacting my dad several times, but no response until the actual surgery was over. He text messaged me saying, "mom's in recovery now." I didn't want to see her Thursday because she was exhausted and so many people already went to go see her, my in-laws included. When my mother-in-law didn't see me at the hospital, she felt the need to call me multiple times throughout the day to remind me what a horrible person I am for not being there for my mom. Even if I wanted to see her that day, I didn't have any information about where she was at. I had no clue which hospital, which building, and which room she was at.

Last night, after my sister told me my mom was at INOVA, I called the hospital saying I was her daughter, asking for her information. Unfortunately, visitor hours were done for the day. So, I went to bed planning on going to see her in the morning and possibly bringing her home.

I called my dad to make sure she was still there, because I didn't want to show up for no reason, but of course, he didn't answer his phone. I text messaged him multiple times, and same thing. Finally, he picked up the phone, saying I didn't have to come because he was already there, and just hung up. Great. Thanks dad.

And mind you, this is after multiple unanswered phone calls to multiple family members. So guys, it's not like I didn't try.

I let that go, and was planning on seeing her tomorrow at the house, after she's well rested and settled back in at home, but of course, a few people had to call me and remind me what a shitty daughter I am. Again, thanks guys.

I just want to say a big FUCK YOU to all you guys that want to label me as a bad daughter. Really? Do you guys know that when my mom felt isolated from her husband and other daughter, that I was the ONLY person she turned to? Do you guys know that she told me she feels like she only has me, and that she feels closer to me than her husband? Do you guys know that she calls me her favorite daughter? Yeah, probably not. I really don't need to hear this bullshit from you guys.

If you don't have anything nice to say, then keep it to yourself, and fuck off.